WHO WILL SHARE YOUR WEDDING DAY?

CREATING YOUR Wedding Guest List

Build a guest list that feels right for your celebration, fits the venue and budget, and gives you a clear foundation for invitations, catering and table planning.

1LIST 2BALANCE 3CONFIRM
START YOUR GUEST LIST BACK TO THE PLANNER
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You do not have to invite everyone you know.

Your guest list should reflect your relationships, the kind of wedding you want and what you can comfortably afford—not other people’s expectations.

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BEFORE WRITING NAMES

Agree the Boundaries Together

Four practical decisions will shape the list. Agree them before relatives begin suggesting names or informal invitations are accidentally made.

01

Maximum number

Use the smaller of your venue capacity and the number your budget can comfortably support.

02

Type of celebration

Decide whether you want an intimate gathering, a larger party or different daytime and evening lists.

03

Invitation rules

Agree how you will handle partners, children, colleagues and guests travelling from farther away.

04

Family involvement

Decide whether parents may suggest guests and how many places, if any, they can help allocate.

01
CREATE ONE LONG LIST

Write Down Every Possible Guest

Each of you should make a list without worrying about the final number. Combine the names, remove duplicates and include everyone needed for an honest first count.

  • Immediate and wider family
  • Close friends and long-standing friendships
  • Work friends and colleagues
  • Partners, children and household members
02
GROUP THE NAMES

Sort by Relationship, Not Obligation

Place guests into sensible groups. This helps you see who is central to your lives and where you could adjust the list if it is larger than your limit.

  • People you cannot imagine the day without
  • People you genuinely want to celebrate with
  • People you would invite if space permits
  • People included mainly through expectation
03
APPLY THE SAME RULES

Make Consistent Decisions

Clear rules make difficult choices fairer and easier to explain. Apply the same approach to comparable guests on both sides wherever possible.

  • Decide which partners will be invited
  • Set one approach for children
  • Agree how far work invitations extend
  • Avoid casual verbal invitations
04
CHECK THE REAL COUNT

Count People, Not Invitations

A couple or family may receive one invitation but occupy several places. Count every adult and child individually when checking capacity and catering costs.

  • Record every named person separately
  • Include the wedding party in venue numbers
  • Separate daytime and evening attendance
  • Allow space before adding reserve guests
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BE CAREFUL WITH A SECOND LIST

Handle reserve invitations thoughtfully

A reserve list can help when numbers are limited, but late invitations may make people feel like replacements. Send your first invitations early, leave enough response time and never discuss different invitation groups publicly.

THE FINAL SENSE CHECK

Five Questions Before Invitations

1

Does every person fit within the venue’s capacity?

2

Can the budget support the true number attending?

3

Have partners and children been handled consistently?

4

Are both of you comfortable with the final list?

5

Have all names and contact details been checked?

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